Casual sex-is there really a thing as such?

I came across a funny question on Quora that birthed the blogpost you are now reading; Is casual sex good or bad? A seemingly shallow and somewhat ignorant question opening my eyes to the phenomena that the misconceptions about casual sex abound. 

So what is Casual Sex?

Casual sex is any form of sexual activity that happens outside a committed or romantic relationship. It usually occurs with both parties expecting no form of commitment or attachment after the act, or in some cases, no form of communication at all after it. Casual sex is what we refer to when we say friends with benefit, sneaky link, one night stand, flings, talking stage, and so on.

On today's read, let's discuss meeting someone randomly, for the first time and then proceeding to having sex with that person. Also, having sexual activities with a person, repeatedly, and not having any committed relationship with that person or even catching feelings for that person at the end of it all. 

Strangely, the act has been normalized. Google search traffic in 2024 averaged 2000 keywords from Nigeria for words related to casual sex such as “one night stand, sneaky link and their likes. Seemingly, the behavior has come to stay amongst us.

I genuinely feel it is difficult to walk away with no attachment from something that has being thoroughly enjoyed. It doesn’t always end well, but at the end of the day, people will always try to break away from what the norm is supposed to be. I mean who made the norm the norm outside of religion anyways, these are the factors that keep us grounded, in the best way.

Begs the question, how is it possible to repeatedly have casual sex with someone with no form of commitment or relationship? When do you decide that you want to stop hooking up with that person? How do you stay unattached to the person? I genuinely want to hear from you if you have any knowledge of how this works.